The Difficult Decision in Favor of a Feeding Tube, Part 1

The Difficult Decision in Favor of a Feeding Tube, Part 1
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First in a two-part series.

Our son Jonah, who was born with junctional epidermolysis bullosa in 2009, struggled to eat from the beginning. It was one of the main reasons he had to remain in the NICU after he was born.

Jonah finally ate just enough to go home, but each day, it became more and more of a struggle. Some days, his lack of eating was due to being on pain medication. Some days, it was due to pain. Some days, it was blistering on his tongue. Some days, it was congestion. If there was a reason not to eat, he had it. 

I recall one day in particular he woke up with a huge — think golf ball-sized — blister on the back of his tiny tongue. He definitely couldn’t latch or suck a bottle. Honestly, I’m not even sure how he could breathe.

I struggled and prayed and cried. What could I do? Did I try to hold this baby down and stick a needle halfway down his throat and attempt to drain it? If I did, would I cut him? Would he aspirate on the fluid? If I didn’t, would he choke in his sleep?

I put him down for a nap that day and packed a bag for the hospital while he slept. I prayed the whole time. When he woke up, the blister had drained and he was able to eat just enough. Another close call. 

Even when he did eat, he had horrible acid reflux. This is common for people with epidermolysis bullosa. Even with medication and thickening his formula, eating was excruciating for him. He would cry and fight, and often it would take him more than 45 minutes to drink a bottle. If he did manage to get some formula down, most times he would throw it up.

I remember crying on my hands and knees on my kitchen floor trying to scoop up his vomit to measure how much it was, to see if he had kept anything down. It got so bad that he vomited at the sight or smell of food, and even if he just felt anxious. He threw up almost every time we laid him back in his infant car seat. Also, at his first Wake Forest basketball game, which you can read about here, as I don’t want to talk about it.

By the grace of God and a bunch of calorie-boosting additives, Jonah stayed on his growth curve. If I go back now and look at the binder where I tracked every ounce and calorie, I’ll almost have a PTSD response.

Between his pain and aversion to food, Jonah began only “dream feeding” when he was half asleep. It was the only time I could get him to take a bottle.

Worst came to worst as Jonah approached 1 year old. He was napping, and therefore feeding, less and less. Anytime he got the least bit congested, he’d stop eating altogether.

Several times he was at the point of dehydration, and we had our bags packed to head to the hospital. One time, we actually ended up in the emergency room, and while there, he finally decided to drink a small bottle of Pedialyte and a few ounces of a bottle. Never mind that I had tried that and all the things at home before giving up and taking him in. He thought he was hilarious.

Jonah and Patrice in late 2009. (Courtesy of Patrice Williams)

We both had enough. He was still on his growth curve and miraculously gaining weight, but every day was a battle. I was literally force-feeding him. He hated it, and I was losing my mind. Both of us often were in tears. We knew this was a struggle for many EB kids, and we knew that for us, it was time for a gastrostomy feeding tube, or G-tube.

To this day, the decision to get a G-tube may be the scariest decision we have ever had to make for Jonah. We knew he needed it, but because he wasn’t “failure to thrive,” it was considered elective.

I was “electing” to have my EB child, whose trachea and esophagus would blister with the least friction, intubated. I was “electing” to have him taken into the operating room. I was “electing” to have doctors and nurses who knew very little about EB touch him. I was “electing” to put him in danger to keep him safe. This was EB: choosing the lesser of two really bad options. 

It was terrifying. But it was right.

Come back in two weeks for part two of this series, and I’ll tell you how and why. We don’t regret it, and neither does he. Not even a little.

Patrice, Jonah, and Dad (Matt) in late 2009. (Courtesy of Patrice Williams)

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Patrice Williams is mother to two boys – 11-year-old Jonah who was diagnosed at birth, in 2009, with Junctional Epidermolysis Bullosa and eight-year-old Gideon. She is married to her sort-of high school sweetheart, Matt. They live in North Carolina with their two smelly dogs. Patrice loves reading, spending time with family, and being outside. Her greatest talents are taking naps and eating tacos. She hopes this column will give hope to those living with Epidermolysis Bullosa and light to those who love them.

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Patrice Williams is mother to two boys – 11-year-old Jonah who was diagnosed at birth, in 2009, with Junctional Epidermolysis Bullosa and eight-year-old Gideon. She is married to her sort-of high school sweetheart, Matt. They live in North Carolina with their two smelly dogs. Patrice loves reading, spending time with family, and being outside. Her greatest talents are taking naps and eating tacos. She hopes this column will give hope to those living with Epidermolysis Bullosa and light to those who love them.

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